Instructions
Difficulty: Moderately Easy
Step1
call for help call for help Alert 1: a call for help ...
The most common warning is when a member of the couple says that something is wrong, and the other party does not believe or choose not to do so. He or she simply could postulate "this marriage is not working" or "I'm not happy."
Solution:
That one party says something it must be like getting a blow on the head for the other. If your partner tries to draw attention, acknowledging what is happening. First, open dialogue, and if you can not come to fruition, consider couples therapy.
Step2
sudden change sudden change Warning 2: sudden change
Does your husband talk of botox injections to remove wrinkles in these entree? Your wife recently started to dye his hair and bought some jeans draft left almost everything under the scope of his eyes? If so they may be searching for something.
Solution:
If you can not beat them, join they. If a member of the couple is going through a phase change, the other member must also change. It is possible, after all, that no third parties involved. Imitate your partner and add something new and unexpected to your life.
Step3
constructive criticism constructive criticism Alert 3: little constructive criticism
If your better half says: "You need to go to a psychologist," "You need to find help," "Get a job," "Have you thought about losing weight?" Or "Why do not you go to the gym?" And shows constant criticism, it is all part of the same subject,that something is wrong with you.
Unconsciously, these people expressed dissatisfaction and frustration that involve your partner, and often others that have nothing to do. Thus, the fights become a constant in the relationship. Generally, when the attack is defended, is accused of argumentative or by whom it has initiated the lawsuit.
Solution:
Listen and learn. If a man says: "I have matured and you do not," is critical and, in some way abusive. However, he is opening a door to talk about feelings, and it is always good to talk about feelings. Make to talk more and he will feel that you understand. Approach employs a careful and intuitive. If a man says to his wife, "these two women are attractive," the natural reaction to this is: I do not want to hear this. " However, make he so feel they can talk to anything. Even the words can make their wishes do not become actions.
Step4
fault fault Alert 4: fault
Any woman would think that someone who makes or expensive gifts or non-attention to his wife is not cheating. Bullshit. The guilt of the offender, in this case, means that to compensate the injured with material gifts. It may be a diamond necklace, a cashmere sweater or a new car.
Solution: talk Pressure
Do not put the other cheek. Could it be so terrible if true, it is difficult to accept a potential infidelity. However, addressing the issue in early, even when there is no concrete evidence, it can help save your marriage. Not bad speak in haste, because if you think something is wrong, possibly so. Trust your instincts. It is much more likely to save your marriage if you make the critical comments you think relevant to stem the potential problems that may underlie.
Step5
Rejection Rejection Warning 5: Rejection at the party of the company
If you notice an unusually cold weather in the event of the company of your husband or your wife, and feel that you look all weird, you're a first sign of trouble.
His colleagues are aware of their affair and imagine you are about to be discarded, so why worry about being kind to you?
It is also possible that your spouse has been making unfortunate comments about you and others think that you are not a good person.
Solution:
Not to speculate strange and unbelievable excuse. Salt to meet people and opens avenues of communication or notice anything unusual either.
When your doctor prescribes a medication for pain, surely will tell you that you take before the pain becomes unbearable, so that its effectiveness will be greater. The same applies to marital problems.
Step6
Secrets Secrets Warning 6: Secrets ...
If you feel you or your partner has secrets that are hiding something, you're faced with a red flag.
Perhaps he or she received telephone calls in secret on the porch instead of using the phone from the bedroom, or in one of these, he was absent those days you used to spend watching television in bed.
If you find that your partner is no longer as before, and disappears at night, anything can go wrong.
Solution: Confrontation
Obviously you need to confront this person and say, 'What is happening here. "
Once the person at fault is put on notice, you should be aware of their error, but may not have done anything, and this may be the first step to rebuilding trust in the relationship.
While it is not advisable to check the caller ID and cell phones can be a good alternative to see if there is fire behind all that smoke.
Step7
infidelity infidelity Warning 7: History repeats itself
Sometimes, people with previous episodes of infidelity, can have a tendency to repeat them.
Of course, there are exceptions and should not be denied that many people manage to change the behavior patterns of their lives, but if we're going to talk about warning signs, history is definitely one.
Solution: set limits
Possibly, depends on the person to set the limits for situations like these.
True, there is no limit that can prevent your wife having an affair, but you can reach an agreement as to what will be your relationship with others.
For example, discuss in advance what things are allowed outside of marriage is a way to get a proof of infidelity.
Moreover, in establishing a normal behavioral pattern, any attitude that will leave it as an alarm.
However, it is important to remember that nothing is fail-safe. Sometimes, infidelity is no apparent reason, and there is even some great relationships apparent happiness.
It is also important, before concluding, to emphasize that an extramarital adventure does not mean that everything is over. An affair can be the trigger for a change.
Many adventures are motivated in the search for companionship, and sex is in the background. Then, when that love is intact, reconstruction of the relationship is possible through the change.
